Who Needs You to Wear a Mask?

If you have ever ridden on an airplane, you’ve heard the flight attendants discuss what to do in case of an emergency. They tell you to fix an oxygen mask to your own face before trying to get a mask onto a child. That speech flies against our instincts as mothers, as parents, as spouses. But how many times have I fed my kids breakfast, knocked back some coffee and forgotten to feed myself until I’m faint, nauseous, grouchy and worthless as a mother?

That’s me, my mama, and my daughter! I praise God that my 68 year-old mama has always taken good care of herself and my dad. Because I still need her, even though I don’t need her. I’m a mom now, too, but she’s still my mom. She was there for me when I had my own babies. She was there for me when I hurt my back. She was there for a midnight phone call when my husband and I had a huge fight … Just today I called my dad for some major advice. That man loves to eat, but my mama feeds him healthy! Here he is, teaching my boy to appreciate homemade ice-cream and cobbler!

If you have ever been responsible for another human being – not because you are being paid – but because you love them more than yourself, and the thought of losing them makes your breath catch in your throat, then you understand why it’s hard to remember to take care of yourself in stressful situations. Putting others first is righteous, noble, biblical even! But if you don’t take care of yourself then you won’t be putting others first for very long, because you’ll die early!
If you are carrying around an extra 75 lbs and it doesn’t include your kid and a diaper bag, then your kid will one day pay the price. *Gasp! That is so mean! I can’t believe she just wrote that out loud!* Well, it’s the truth. Not only do you suffer the consequences of not putting on your mask – such as diseases associated with obesity and poor health like diabetes, heart disease, stroke, etc. – but your kids have to deal with an unhealthy parent! THEY NEED YOU to live, and they need YOU TO LIVE.

 It’s not just about working out! It’s about nutrition, vitamins, posture, faith, relationships… If you have someone depending on you then I hope that you are taking care of yourself. For as many days as you are given, you want to nurture a body that lets you enjoy each of those days to it’s fullest!

Here’s my hubby’s mama with our boy. She’s 68 now too! How blessed my children are to have such active, healthy grandparents. I want to be like that for their children, my grandchildren!

4 thoughts on “Who Needs You to Wear a Mask?

  1. Andrea says:

    Aren't parents great? Thank God my mom had twins before me. She gets it and I now know it can be done! Don't know what I'd do without her!

  2. fatine khawarizmi says:

    God bless mama and all moms, as you said, you should give priority to your self first then comes the others, simply if you have luck of rest or sleeplessness or even hunger you can not take care nicely with the others unless you was enough healthy and with a good moral too.
    REALLY a great topic today 😉

  3. Melody says:

    Wonderful wise words, Bethany! You are so right, and I know moms of very young children have an even more difficult time taking care of themselves first! Amen.

  4. Becca says:

    Such an important message! A therapist friend once told me that the trick was to keep asking yourself the question: will I still be able to do this a year from now? In other words, it might feel great to sacrifice your own breakfast that one time. But if you did it every day for a year, would you really be able to be get up in the morning and make their breakfast? If not, then it's not a sustainable model of caretaking.

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